I’m sure you have heard the saying that “a little bit of knowledge is a dangerous thing”. Well that is my topic for today. People have a tendency to become very invested in the bit of knowledge they have and are unable to see that there are other ways of doing things and other experiences out there.
My personal pet peeve is when I am discussing a success I have had in some area of my life and I get the “You are doing it all wrong”. I had success, how can it be all wrong. Ahh, I didn’t do things the same way as my companion did. I got from point A to B by a different route and apparently my way is full of as yet unidentified pit falls. It can be frustrating trying to get a person to understand that you are different than they are and that what works for them may not work for me. Their path may be shorter and smoother for most but maybe not for me. Continue reading →
When I set up this web site I came across the following 16 Rules for Success in Business and Life in General by Bob Parsons® . Bob is the Executive Chairman and Founder of GoDaddy.com. Yes, maybe he is trying to sell you more web based services, but his 16 rules do resonate and in my opinion we could all benefit from following them.
Get and stay out of your comfort zone.
I believe that not much happens of any significance when we’re in our comfort zone. I hear people say, “But I’m concerned about security.” My response to that is simple: “Security is for cadavers.”
Twice a week I see my trainer and twice a week I moan and groan and tell myself I don’t want to do this, I can’t do this, this is going to be terrible.
Twice a week I tell myself it is all about attitude and if I have to bring a better attitude to this workout, it will go better.
Twice a week I complain and bargain with the trainer and in the end I am often unhappy with what I have accomplished. When the workout is over I promise that I will bring a better attitude next time.
Then one time right at the beginning of the workout my trainer told me what exercises I was going to do and I thought “I can do that. It will be easy” and it was easy and I asked for more of a challenge and that extra challenge was easy. I was proud of what I had accomplished. I felt great. I realized that I talked about having a better attitude but it was all talk. After that every time I worked out I told myself that what I was being asked to do was no problem. When an exercise started to get away from me and my attitude became negative I took a big breath and changed the conversation going on in my head. It made it so much easier and enjoyable. Pushing around heavy weights can be fun … with the right attitude!
Yeah, you guys already knew all this and so did I on a certain level, but I never consistently used this tool. I’m having a moment. Cut me some slack!
Now I am taking what I have learned to other areas of my life. It has become clear that how anything going on around me affects me is very much a matter of my attitude.
So I’m reading a very interesting article from the New York Times Magazine (Link to article) about obesity and weight loss. I was particularly interested in the quote
“The research shows that the changes that occur after weight loss translate to a huge caloric disadvantage of about 250 to 400 calories. For instance, one woman who entered the Columbia studies at 230 pounds was eating about 3,000 calories to maintain that weight. Once she dropped to 190 pounds, losing 17 percent of her body weight, metabolic studies determined that she needed about 2,300 daily calories to maintain the new lower weight. That may sound like plenty, but the typical 30-year-old 190-pound woman can consume about 2,600 calories to maintain her weight — 300 more calories than the woman who dieted to get there.”
My good friend Havva (she says her name is Eve in Hebrew) was kind enough to send me an article about Holley Mangold (Link to article). She will be lifting weights in the Olympics this summer and weighs in at 350 lbs which is not unusually big for this competition. The story is partially sensationalism over her size but it also shows the level of sacrifice she is willing to endure in order to compete. It particularly struck a cord with me because she has no expectation of winning, she only wants to experience the joy of doing her best. That is very refreshing when it often seems like we live in a world were first place and perfect is the only measure that counts. Unfortunately I then read a few of the comments on the story. I should know better! The comments section of any article is often filled with ugly refuse that is clogging up peoples’ minds. I like to think that they are cleaning out bits of whatever it is that is rotting in their brains every time I read a critical comment. As comments go the ones attached to this article were very tame. My complaint is with people invisibly sitting in judgement of others based on the slimmest of details on that person’s life. Instead of assuming the worst about Holley Mangold, why not assume the best. Lets stop being critical of one another and start being postive and supportive. I know for myself I feel better when I am preaching something positive.
I am going to tell you the true tale about my first days at the gym. It may seem unlikely. I certainly was wondering what was going on at the time!
The company I worked for offered all employees a free membership at any gym as long as you went to the gym at least 2 days a week. How could I say no? At 446 pounds we all knew that I needed to get to the gym more than any other employee.
I visited the big chain gym that some of the other employees liked. I had an evaluation and during the evaluation I had a chance to see how the gym functioned. Even though they gave me a three month free membership I never went back. Nobody was mean to me, but I could see that these people were all in a hurry and anybody including me was in their way. I felt unwelcome. Continue reading →